The answer to the many questions that have caused me many a swollen eye over the past 3 days:
"The problem of the mind is that we have one"
"... and that it has a natural tendency to spend a lot of its time thinking a steady stream of distressing thoughts that make us feel bad about ourselves and our lives. When there's something inside us that spends a lot of its time making us feel bad about ourselves and our lives--and it's out of control, to boot-- that's a problem."
- How Long Till My Soul Gets It Right (Robert and Jane Alter)